By December time, We are already dreaming about “changes” to be made, adventures to be undertaken, and resolutions to be accomplished. It feels like a tabla rusa, and you can just let by-gones be by-gones. Because at the start of the next year, the little things you were embarrassed about or the mistakes you made will turn into hazy past memory. For me, I can say it has been a beautiful year of ups and downs, but tremendous growth and for that, I am thankful.
Let’s get excited for this new year. Look forward to a new chapter in our lives and new stories to unravel. 2016 is a new empty canvas to paint your life on, so just start collecting the supplies.
For some, it might be the the toughest year – academically rigorous, physically draining, or maybe your job task is going to have work piling up. Whatever the reason may be, just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it is up to you on how you want to go about taking strides.
Here are some resolutions that you might like:
- Commit to things and stick to them there might be many times where Netflix and Chill(ing with yourself) might be a better alternative than doing your laundry, homework, or anything that you want to put off. However, don’t let opportunities pass you by. Take control. Go for them, work for them, as hard as you possibly can. Netflix can wait, and so can that really exciting episode of Scandal.
- Have more faith in yourself and God There will be times when you feel so lost in yourself because everything is going wrong. But just know that God is there for you every step of the day. He is watching over, blessing you to become stronger for the days to come. Get your recognition from Him, and he’ll give you His.
- Give back We live in a world, where we are constantly focused on getting. Whether it be getting good grades, or getting a promotion. We are always constantly trying to seek our benefits, but that can be so vain to live like that. Try to give back more to the community, actually donate some change to the homeless, or volunteer more. Do good and feel good.
- Take negative people out of your life In real life, unlike Facebook, we can’t choose to filter out certain people. You might see them in your class, around friends, or in the same hot spots around town or campus. If you have that ex that only makes your hotline bling when he/she needs something, or that one-sided friendship in which you’re the only one putting in any effort), you shouldn’t feel required to continue try to salvage that. You don’t need to make a grand gesture to cut them off. Just start distancing yourself and soon the weight will just lift off. Once you stop making them a priority in your life, you’ll have time to worry about things that actually matter. Out of sight, out of mind.
- Start taking criticism and losses constructively Michael Jordan once said, “I have failed over and over in my life, and that is why I succeed.” Rejection sucks. I for one, have a hard time with it, it really bums me out. But honestly, it shouldn’t. We learn most by the mistakes we make. It is in our flaws we find solutions to our problems and ways to improve. Mistakes are inevitable and you can never fully plan out how things are going to end up. Take in your mistakes like a breath of fresh air and learn rebuild yourself from them. A Phoenix is able to rise again from its ashes, so grow from your failures.
- Study abroad, or get out of the country There’s a certain Je ne said quoi in traveling. Take his new year as a new opportunity to venture off into the unknown – go somewhere you have never been before, on a wim, take a risk and just do it. Traveling can be pricy and for those that are unable to, it doesn’t have to just be out of the country. Go on a road trip to a nearby state. Visit places in your city that you’ve never heard about. Camp. Opening yourself up to experiencing new things will really give your a better understanding of people and the world.
- Attend more festivals since my first music festival, Free Press Summer Fest in Houston, I have been hooked. I’ve lived in a city (Austin) that is thrives in Music, and everyday I feel #blessed. So I’m telling you to be free, go after your passions, explore, experience, create, enjoy your youth. This the youngest we will ever be so make the best of it! Even if you have to go alone, go for it. In life, there will be many times you won’t have someone to travel with or go to concerts with. Go because you want to.
- Get in the best shape of life Being in the best shape doesn’t necessarily have to be extremely skinny or super bodybuilder buff. It’s to where you feel happy, confident, and healthy.
- Stop hoarding onto old clothes and things There are probably clothes that you have held onto for years that you’ll probably never wear. Or those clothes you only buy for one occasion only to never re-wear. Luckily, there are many apps and online websites that make it easy for you to rid yourself of your past and make some cash while you’re at it. Just like this, any old possession of you that you don’t really need but have, get rid of it.
- Take more risks Do things that allure you and scare you at the same time. If you always stay well within the lines of your comfort zone, you’ll always be the same person. Allow for some malleability. It’s a beautiful world filled to crazy adventures to be taken and so much to learn. Liberate yourself by facing fears and trying new things! You’ll have so many stories from it.
“Get outta yo mind” – Lil Jon
- Stick up for yourself No one is going to stick up for you forever. If someone is rude or hurtful to you, don’t just take it. Speak up in times when you’re treated poorly by someone.
- Forget comparisons We are constantly comparing ourselves to others whether it be our peers, colleges, or celebrities. Learn to embrace who you are and focus on yourself. We cannot prioritize others and what they think of us and let that guide our life. Someone is always going to be better than you, but learn be grateful for who you are and what you have. You have it a lot better than many other individuals.
- Listen to your gut If you get a bad feeling about a person, or going someplace you shouldn’t be going, listen to your gut because it’s usually always going to be right. If it feels like something’s off, then it probably is.
- Read Actually invest time in reading. Not just a magazine or your texts. But actually pick up a good book and let yourself get wrapped up in it. Immerse yourself in a vicarious adventure, and learn. They say knowledge is power and reading will probably do you more good than bad, just saying.
- Actually pay attention to politics They say ignorance is bliss, but not when it comes to knowing what is going on around you. Every citizen in this world counts. Educate yourself, learn the facts, and get involved in the discussions. This is our country.
- Learn to budget Save a bit of every paycheck that you have. Even if you want to spend it on new clothes, or online shop. Don’t be allured by all the flash. You never know when you might need it.
- Set a goal and do your best to accomplish it Lastly, choose one goal that you REALLY want to accomplish. It can be anything as simple as learning how to salsa dance, getting six pack abs, or quitting smoking. Whatever your choice is, stick to it. So that when 2017 comes, you’ll have that goal completed and something new from it.
- Take time for yourself If you’re physically exhausted and just can’t hang out with your friends or go out, it’s okay to cancel. You need to take care of yourself and do what you want to do. #TreatYoSelf
- Stop chasing and wanting Movies, books, streets, malls, etc. all have one thing in common: love, couples, romance all around. But if you are single stop trying to find Mr. Right or the perfect girl. Let love come to you. Maybe it’s the not right time. For now, make the best of it. When you’re single, you’re not tied down. You’re free to kiss whoever, and not really obligated to do anything. So out with your friends, live your life, and enjoy. The right person will come into your life somewhere down the line when the times right and it’ll be the best thing ever. And if you have that f-boy or FWB that’s doing you more bad than good, cut if off. You’ve be able to move forward and focus on things and people that are actually worth the time.
- Appreciate yourself you are your own worst enemy. Don’t let anyone get to you. Be happy, confident, bold, and live life the way you want to. Work hard, play hard. Finish up work early so that you have time to do things like you want to do in your free time. Try as hard as you possibly can to get the satisfaction of earning what you are working towards.
- Be a friend Be the kind of friend you want to text at 3 am when you’re feeling down because you know they drop everything to help you. Everyone needs someone in their times of need. We’re all going through something, so be that shoulder for someone you care about. Make those that matter a priority in your life, and let them know that you’ve got their back.